I think I may literally be the worst blogger ever. I wish I could channel my wit and sarcasm into hilarious posts about anything. But it seems those moments when I shine are in real life and not here. So sorry you miss out on them. Apologies for all the hostility about to ensue....
So we are in the throes of surrogacy contract lawyer BS. I hate hate HATE this part of the process. Every lawyer needs to out lawyer the first lawyer and prove how big his proverbial penis is. Ok maybe its not that dramatic but seriously, do not talk to me like I am stupid. Assume I can and have read and already googled anything necessary to understand this stupid piece of unenforceable malarkey. AND that I have formulated my opinions and wishes based on actual shit and not just the way the wind blew that day. Its incredible how the IFs and I could be on the same page until two dumbass attorneys read that page and interpret it totally differently from what we've already agreed to, and from each other. Why does it have to be soooooo complicated. Why does it take 30 pages of run on sentences to accomplish this??! We are 9 days away from insems. 9. And my lawyer is taking the rest of the month off after tomorrow. We still do not have this thing ironed out.
I have ZERO desire to take potential baby anywhere with me after its birth. R&J are it's parents. End of story. In all seriousness, I really want help make their family and to suffer for the next 9 months and hope to grow a giant baby belly but that is neither here nor there at this point.
On another note, I have been wondering if I should somehow document this process and pregnancy for potential baby to have one day. It seems more than likely that at some point potential baby will have a grasp of basically how babies are made, and will come to the realization that a woman needed to be involved at some point here. Hopefully potential baby will be happy with all the effort and hard work that went into their creation. I suppose a scrapbook would be good. Maybe 2. One for R&J when they need to have that conversation. And one for me to keep in case I ever get to have that conversation.
Guess we need to iron out this contract.....
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Actual Surro Update
So I suppose its about time for an update on the TS front. I am making a lot of really good future plans with my best co-worker A! I am still so so excited to be her TS and all the plans we have made surrounding what that looks like. That is however still a year+ away. Partly because.... We are finally wrapping up the contract with R&J. As a TS I feel that I want to be more involved with the guys and better friends with them. I want to be able to keep a small layer of contact with them after birth for many years to come. If I was more of a "people person" I would want to meet their family and friends and become intertwined forever with them. But the majority of my personality just loves to be a loner and finds crowds/people/groups exhausting/intimidating. So I think I have the perfect relationship with the guys and can not wait for this!
Anyway, the good ol' witch AF should arrive Thursday 6/5. That is the beginning of the cycle where we will (fingers crossed, toes crossed) hopefully get pregnant! We should insem 6/27-6/30. Not sure of travel arrangements yet so those days might move +/- one day. We have the contract to IFs lawyer right now putting the finishing touches on that. Then my lawyer has to review. Whom, btw, I almost hate. But he is the only lawyer, other than IFs lawyer, who we could find to work with a TS situation. He is cocky and arrogant and stuck up and yucky! But whatever, all he has to do is advise me of what I do not know. IFs and I have worked out most of the details on our own already. Any comp that may or may not be involved, time off work, insurance, medical bills, etc, etc.
3 weeks and 3 days till go time! I remember being miserable while pregnant with Brooke. I remember saying never, ever, ever again. But like 2 weeks after she was born and continuing through the present time, is an undeniable scream to be pregnant again, to be a surrogate, to make families. I know there will be moments when I will ask myself "Why???" when the nausea, indigestion, swelling, contractions, become too much. I will doubt myself. But in the end, I will 100% know why I chose this.
Anyway, the good ol' witch AF should arrive Thursday 6/5. That is the beginning of the cycle where we will (fingers crossed, toes crossed) hopefully get pregnant! We should insem 6/27-6/30. Not sure of travel arrangements yet so those days might move +/- one day. We have the contract to IFs lawyer right now putting the finishing touches on that. Then my lawyer has to review. Whom, btw, I almost hate. But he is the only lawyer, other than IFs lawyer, who we could find to work with a TS situation. He is cocky and arrogant and stuck up and yucky! But whatever, all he has to do is advise me of what I do not know. IFs and I have worked out most of the details on our own already. Any comp that may or may not be involved, time off work, insurance, medical bills, etc, etc.
3 weeks and 3 days till go time! I remember being miserable while pregnant with Brooke. I remember saying never, ever, ever again. But like 2 weeks after she was born and continuing through the present time, is an undeniable scream to be pregnant again, to be a surrogate, to make families. I know there will be moments when I will ask myself "Why???" when the nausea, indigestion, swelling, contractions, become too much. I will doubt myself. But in the end, I will 100% know why I chose this.
I am a quitter: I cut my hair
So even though I said I would not cut my hair until I reached my surrogacy goal. I just couldn't face the person in the mirror any longer. I cut my hair. And I LOVE it :) Oh and added some highlights. I also can not promise that this is as short as it will get. I might go back in a few weeks and go for that pixie!
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