Ok, So I have no real idea what I am doing. I want to record my journey as a gestational surrogate, but I never thought I was witty enough to have a blog. Well after reading many other blogs, I decided one need not be witty to write a blog, no offense. I have always loved to write and chronicle my life, I have the old fashioned hand written logs of my life ( I refuse to call it a diary) that date back to about age 8. I guess now is a good time to venture into the blogsphere. Although, I am not very techie, so we'll see how I can adapt.
When I first officially pursued surrogacy I googled it over and over, and was really hoping more surrogate's blog would come up. Then I found SMO and that has been a life changer. So much good info from real women who have gone through all the what ifs of surrogacy.
For me, surrogacy has always been something I wanted to do. Probably since I was 16, I'm 26 now. I had my first and so far only child when I was 18, and the pride associated with parenthood is truly something everyone should get to experience. I first applied to agencies about 3 years ago and was broken hearted when I was denied. I had no real support system back then, and I have now come to realize just how crucial that part of the journey is. So in December 2010 I started applying to agencies again. I was approved and was speaking with potential IPs (intended parents) with one agency by Jan 2011. However, that all fell through due to things out of my control, and it became apparent that the agency and I were not a good fit. I began to "interview" other agencies, I knew what I was looking for, someone to hold my hand and walk me through this the first time. I eventually found two perfect agencies, after talking with probably 10. I decided to work with one agency based in Connecticut and was matched through them in July 2011. I now have great, hilarious, brilliant, fantastic IPs and a truly amazing agency!
My boyfriend (of 5 years, even if the first 2.5 were rocky, whom I own our house with) and I flew to CT for our marathon testing day on 9/1/11. It was so crazy busy, 2 days felt like 1. I worked 1/2 a day then we flew to Atlanta to connect to fly to CT, arrived about 1130 pm, ate dinner at midnight, slept, woke at 7 am eastern time which is 5 am mountain time (the time we were on) to get ready, met IPs, met agency rep who is also IPs attorney, had psych eval, ultrasounds and bloodwork, then back to the airport, flight was late, almost missed connecting flight in Chicago, back to Denver. It really was a great trip and I have nothing but amazing things to say about my IPs.
Today we are just waiting for the contracts to be finalized and for an egg donor to be chosen. I am keeping my fingers crossed for an October 28th transfer. I picked that day weeks ago out of the blue, and I stil hope that is the big day.
Anyway, I have found that you either "get" surrogacy or you don't. Women either can do it or can not. There really is no middle in most of this. Women at work tell me they just couldn't give up a baby they had carried in their body. And I just keep telling them "but it's not mine" You know that this baby(ies) does not belong to you. Hence the title of the blog. Its like babysitting. At the end, the baby goes to it's parents, and you go home to your normal life and sleep schedule. From all the people I have talked with, there is very little thinking about the initial reaction. It literally is "I could never do that" or "Hmmm, I could do that too" I have several friends who are tossing around the idea when the time is right in their lives.
So this was long, but its all caught up I think.
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